It is like a radio version of that show cheaters.
And I sort of hate the show, because it is so depressing. It makes you think that every person out there is a real dirtbag.
Well, today's show was quite refreshing. The gal called in and said her live-in boyfriend of 4 years all of the sudden has been acting sooo quiet and working late all the time. Just really unusual stuff, and not communicating to her about anything. So they call him up and he tells them YES, send them to the girlfriend. Friday is going to be BIG, I am planning on proposing! This is where is gets weird, since girlfriend is listening in on the call, and there are no flowers. They say on the show that even if the accused sends the flowers to you, you still have to confront them on what you set them up for. So I am thinking, yay, thank God, a good guy for once! Well the guy gets soooo mad. I mean, his surprise is ruined, and as it turns out he had been working an extra job so that he could afford a nice ring for his lady. So she feels terrible, and he is now concerned that she thinks this is something he is capable of or that he is going to be put on trial every time he doesn't want to talk about something. So they now have some stuff to work out, needless to say.
So my question to you guys is - Is it wrong to withhold things from your partner?
My personal opinion is that I feel bad for the guy since he was being the opposite of a big jerk, but he can't be that surprised that he starts to disappear in the evenings with no word on what he is up to, and his girlfriend wouldn't come to that conclusion. I mean, communication breakdowns can ruin relationships. He probably should have said something to appease her until the surprise happens. But what do you guys think? When is it okay to keep stuff from your other half? And not to get all John Quinones on you, but what would you do if you were being accused of cheating and you weren't?
If you click the about link, you should be able to access the actual segment online until midnight tonight!
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The thing that bugs me about this segment (and the reason that I can't stand to listen to it) is that everything would be so much better if the person who suspects the other person of cheating would just TALK TO THEIR PARTNER. These relationships all have horrible communication between the people involved, and it drives me up the wall.
Stop trying to "catch" someone cheating and just freaking talk to them like a normal human being! Maybe if you actually communicated with him/her like a rational adult, they wouldn't feel so trapped in the relationship.
Everyone involved comes out sounding like a whiny middle schooler. Blech.
You'd think the radio people would have some decency and go ahead and just order the flowers! But I guess having been on live radio he might find out anyways!
-April
I'm with Judy - though I have never had a suspicion like that, it is kind of like if you ask something like that - either way you will get screwed. If something is going on, that is bad, but if you think something is going on and it isn't, it makes you look untrusting
I don't think it's wrong to surprise your partner but you should at least come up with a decent cover story so they don't feel weird and suspicious. Also, I suppose it is possible that the guy from the radio was cheating but knew about the radio show and made up the engagement ring thing to make his girlfriend feel bad. However, a radio show is not the solution to being suspicious, she should have just talked to him.
What a crazy show ! I think communication is key! Unfortunately the Army makes Trey paranoid that the fictitious "Jody Boy" that is going to his woman. But you just have to be honest with your partner. Even if someone is withdrawn for some other reason and their partner ask what the deal is and expresses their concerns, hopefully that person will be mote conscious of their behavior so not to arouse suspicion from their partner.
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